Let’s talk about ADHD and perfectionism. If you’ve ever found yourself stuck because you wanted everything to be “just right,” you’re not alone. For many of us with ADHD, perfectionism isn’t just about high standards—it’s tied to something much deeper.
Why Do People with ADHD Struggle with Perfectionism?
At its core, perfectionism can be a way to escape criticism. For those of us with ADHD, criticism can hit especially hard because of something called Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria (RSD). This is when criticism (even the tiniest kind) triggers intense feelings of rejection or failure.
- Example: Someone points out a small mistake, and instead of brushing it off, it feels like a personal attack.
- The result? Many of us try to avoid this painful feeling by striving for perfection. If it’s “perfect,” no one can criticize it…right?
How Perfectionism Holds Us Back
While perfectionism might seem like a good thing on the surface, it often does more harm than good:
- Paralysis: You spend so much time trying to make something perfect that you never actually finish it.
- Burnout: Constantly chasing perfection is exhausting.
- Missed Opportunities: You might avoid starting projects altogether because you’re afraid they won’t turn out perfectly.
What Can You Do About It?
- Recognize the Pattern: Start by noticing when perfectionism is sneaking in. Ask yourself:
“Am I holding myself to an impossible standard right now?” - Embrace “Good Enough”: Shift your mindset from “perfect” to “done is better than perfect.” Remember, progress matters more than perfection.
- Give Yourself Grace: Remind yourself that mistakes are part of learning. Criticism doesn’t define your worth.
- Set Small Goals: Instead of aiming for flawless results, focus on completing one small step at a time. Each step forward is a win!
A Little Reminder
Perfectionism is a protective strategy—one that often stems from fear of rejection or criticism. But you don’t have to let it control you. By being kinder to yourself and breaking free from impossible standards, you can find more joy in what you do.
If this resonates with you, share your thoughts or experiences. And if you’re looking for more ADHD insights and support, let’s connect—you’re not alone on this journey!
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Disclaimer:
This blog post is for informational and entertainment purposes only and is not a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Consult a qualified healthcare provider with any questions about your health.
